Designed for More: Why Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You Changes Everything
Strong… but Breaking
Let’s keep it real. Too many women wear “strength” like a badge of honor while quietly breaking on the inside. You carry everyone’s weight, show up for everybody’s needs, and pour love into men who don’t even choose you back. And you smile while sadness eats at you behind closed doors.
On paper, you look like you have it all together. But when you look in the mirror, you’re tired. You’re questioning if this is really the life you prayed for.
That’s not strength. That’s survival. And survival was never God’s design for you.
Default Living Will Destroy You
Living on default looks like autopilot/:
Wake up, work, take care of everybody else, go to bed, repeat.
Saying yes when every part of you is screaming no.
Staying in relationships that drain you because being chosen halfway feels safer than not being chosen at all.
Performing for approval, hoping someone will finally see your worth.
But here’s the truth: neglect is not love. It’s slow destruction.
Every time you abandon yourself to keep others comfortable, you chip away at your confidence, your peace, and your identity. And eventually, you forget who you are outside of what you do for everybody else.
God’s Design Was Never Survival
Don’t get it twisted, God didn’t put you here to just survive. He didn’t create you to wear exhaustion like a crown or call broken relationships “love.”
John 10:10 says: “I have come that they may have life, and have it more abundantly.”
Abundance doesn’t look like settling for men who won’t choose you fully. It doesn’t look like bending over backwards to prove your value. And it sure doesn’t look like smiling through sadness just to keep up appearances.
Strength, in God’s design, isn’t pretending you’re fine while your soul is bleeding. Real strength is standing in truth, even when it costs you the approval of others.
Self-Love is Obedience, Not Rebellion
Let’s bust another lie: self-love is not selfish. It’s obedience.
When you rest, you are honoring the God who rested.
When you set boundaries, you are protecting the temple He gave you.
When you stop settling for half-love, you are agreeing with Him about your worth.
Every time you choose yourself, you are aligning with God’s truth. And that alignment is what keeps you from mistaking neglect for love.
What Happens When You See Yourself the Way God Does
The moment you stop living by default and start seeing yourself through God’s eyes, the game changes.
You stop tolerating relationships that leave you empty because you know your worth.
You stop performing for approval because you realize God’s “yes” outweighs anyone’s opinion.
You stop shrinking to make others comfortable and start standing tall in the truth of who you are.
You stop calling exhaustion “strength” and start calling it what it is, bondage.
The Cost of Staying in Default
If you keep living in default mode, here’s what happens:
You lose sight of who you are.
You confuse survival with purpose.
You stay stuck in cycles of sadness, self-doubt, and settling.
And let me be clear, survival will always cost you more than self-love ever will.
Closing Truth
Neglect isn’t love. It’s slow destruction. The love God designed for you includes you, too.
When you start seeing yourself the way God sees you, you stop settling for less. You stop shrinking to fit places you were never meant to fit. And you stop mistaking survival for strength.
You were designed for more, and it’s time to start living like it.
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