Because some days, your body doesn’t feel like a temple.
It feels like a trigger, a memory, or a burden you’ve carried silently for too long.

That’s not you being ungrateful. That’s you being honest.
And it’s time we start talking about a form of self-love that isn’t curated for likes or filtered for approval.

Body Positivity Isn’t the Only Way

Let’s tell the truth: body positivity, while well-intentioned, can start to feel like another high standard to meet.
You're expected to love your body, celebrate every inch, and show it off proudly, no matter how tired, bloated, or disconnected you feel.

But what if you’re not there yet?
What if the goal isn’t radical self-love, but something softer... something more sustainable?

That’s where body neutrality comes in.
It says: You don’t have to love your body all the time. You just have to stop fighting it.

You don’t need to perform peace, you can practice it.

And sometimes, that looks like simply being in your body without shame.

Why Body Neutrality Hits Different for Black Women

We can’t have this conversation without naming the truth:
Black women’s bodies have never been neutral to society.

We’ve been praised and punished, copied and criticized, often at the same time.
From “too loud” to “too thick,” from hair texture to waist size, we’ve had to navigate a landscape that never saw our bodies as ours.

Body neutrality is revolutionary because it puts the power back in your hands.
It says: “My body is not up for public consumption or cultural critique.”
It says: “My worth doesn’t rise and fall with my weight, curves, or skin tone.”
It gives you permission to stop performing and start reclaiming.

What Body Neutrality Looks Like in Real Life

This isn’t about theory. This is about practice—daily, sometimes uncomfortable, but deeply freeing.

Here’s what body neutrality can look like in your actual life:

• 👗 Wearing the outfit that makes you feel like you— not because it hides your stomach or smooths your silhouette, but because it’s soft, bold, comfy, or just feels like home on your skin.
  (It’s not about flattering someone else’s gaze. It’s about dressing for your own presence.)
• 💤 Skipping a workout— not out of defeat, but because your body whispered “rest” and you actually listened.
  (Respect is movement. And sometimes that movement is stillness.)
• 🍲 Eating a meal— not with shame or a side of math, but because food is fuel and pleasure.
  (You're allowed to eat simply because you’re hungry—not because you “earned it.”)
• 📸 Taking a picture— not to prove self-love, but to be present in the moment.
  (You exist in memories, not just in perfect angles. Your life deserves documentation, not justification.)

Body neutrality doesn’t ask you to hype yourself up.
It invites you to come home to yourself without filters, performance, or punishment.

The Simply Lovable® Way: A Self-Love Practice You Can Hold In Your Hands

Real self-love isn’t just about what you say in the mirror.
It’s about how you treat yourself when no one’s watching.

That’s why I created the Simply Lovable® Card Deck and Companion Workbook, to give you tools that meet you right where you are, no matter what kind of day you’re having.

Ready to stop performing for your reflection and start healing your relationship with your body?

👉🏽 Visit the Simply Lovable® Shop to grab the tools that help you reconnect, reset, and remember your worth—on your terms.

You don’t have to love every inch of your body every single day.
But you can still treat her like someone worth protecting.